The question Will I be hurt again? arises not only in situations of violence and abuse but in the daily push-and-pull of life. Many people undertake the process of forgiving only when they are assured that it will not make them vulnerable to the offending person. They want no part of a forgiveness that exposes them to ongoing hurt. We must therefore understand what the gospel asks of us. It does not require us to remain in situations of danger or to put up with ongoing hurt. Protecting ourselves from harm is our right and duty.
—Kathleen Fischer, in Forgiveness: Perspectives on Making Peace with Your Past, compiled and introduced by Amy Lyles Wilson (Fresh Air Books, 2008)
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Make no friends with those given to anger,
and do not associate with hotheads,
or you may learn their ways
and entangle yourself in a snare.
—Proverbs 22:24-25 (NRSV)
Prayer for the Week
Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us today our daily bread.
And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from the evil one.
(This week’s prayer can be found in Matthew 6:9-13, NIV.)
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(Courtesy of Vanderbilt Divinity Library)
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