Receiving Help GraciouslyNew Every Morning | November 13, 2022
For most of my life, I had been the caregiver offering help and support, especially to people with dementia and their caregivers. Now … I am the one who needs care and support. I have learned to embrace my growing identity as a receiver. I have learned that receiving help graciously is a sacred practice. Instead of complaining about my loss of control, I am able to express gratitude to everyone who reaches out to help me.
—Richard L. Morgan, Light of Setting Suns: Reflecting on Realities and Mysteries at Ninety Years of Life (Upper Room Books, 2020)
When have you had to accept help from others, and what attitude did you have toward being helped? Join the conversation.
“When you are old, you will stretch out your
hands, and others will dress you and take you
where you don’t want to go.”
—John 21:18 (NLT)
Prayer for the Week
Lord of love, grant me courage to accept my trials, learn to
endure them with patience, and realize that such courage
and faith create character. Amen.
Prayer by Richard L. Morgan
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There are times all through life when I’ve needed help. Early in life I had it right after being born before I even knew I needed it. Then all through life there have been more situations where I needed help. I’ve tried to return the favor to others, I’m still doing it. It is what we are called by God to do. Watching others live their lives I’m aware that at some point I may be totally dependent on caregivers at the end of my life and quite possibly unable to thank them. I hope it doesn’t end that way, but the future is unknown.
On a brighter note Advent calendars will go off to my granddaughters on Monday. Picked them up at the German food store yesterday. Will see them in December. Have my train ticket. Hope Covid, the flu, and RSV don’t put a stop on the visit.
Church today, soon decorating for Advent, Christmas. and Epiphany.
Blessings to all.
I often need help and it can be hard for me to ask for help. If someone offers help, as our church has on several occasions, I try to accept graciously. I’m truly thankful to those who have offered help to us. We hope to pay it forward when we can.
During mom’s final two months, there were a handful of people who kept my dad fed well – dropping by food enough for multiple meals. They knew what he liked and catered to his preferences. Also, I had a few colleagues who did simple things for me, which were huge helps. One, in particular, would meet me in the treasure office and help me count up money. It made a significant difference to me – the amount of time saved.
Well, tennis today did not end as hoped. I lost (again) on my court and it cost us the playoffs. All three of my team’s losses this year – I have lost on my court in the final tiebreaker. Might be losing my mojo a bit.
An easy start to the week, and then things pick up. I have my first physical therapy appointment Wednesday after school. Then our small group is having a dinner and our study – the last one until January. I pick Dad, Don and Becky up from the airport Thursday.
I’m glad to learn of the help offered and accepted by Ally&David and Jill and the difference it made. Competitive tennis requires agility, strength, endurance, and accuracy . We’ve watched a great tennis player with many grand slam wins have to move away from competition. I’m sure that is tough when you have the competitive spirit in you. Thankfully, Jill, you still have golf and following your Dad’s example can play for many years to come. There’s competition there too. Hope physical therapy goes well. Your family will be back for the holidays, that’s a blessing.