If you find that people in your group are frequently self-critical, rule-oriented, or rigid, try to extend and model grace and flexibility while respecting their needs and comfort zone and providing structure and predictability. They may need to loosen up, but they need to do so at their own pace. Others may be a bit emotionally loose and will need you to model setting boundaries like ending prayer requests when you say you will, even though they may feel disappointed. Give them time, be patient, and know that you don’t have to expand your boundaries and wear yourself out for them to benefit from the group.
—Angela D. Schaffner, Gather Us In: Leading Transformational Small Groups (Upper Room Books, 2020)
When has a group leader modeled grace for you?
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If possible, to the best of your ability, live at peace with all people.
—Romans 12:18 (CEB)
Prayer for the Week
Thank you, God, for the opportunity to grow closer to you and to one another. We ask you to be present in our small-group meetings and to help us become more Christlike. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen.
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Our basic need for belonging and connection to other people is magnified during times we have to be apart from others. Licensed psychologist and author of Gather Us In Dr. Angela D. Schaffner offers 10 helpful tips for running a quality Zoom group. Read more here.
(Courtesy of Vanderbilt Divinity Library)
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