IdentityNew Every Morning | January 21, 2023
When my life crashed and burned, one of the strangely wrapped gifts that came to me was the discovery of just how much of my identity had been firmly rooted in what others thought of me and how I could perform. (And no, that didn’t feel much like a gift at first.) … I was “leaving home” and looking for a sense of security in my marriage, my intact family, and how others perceived me as a leader. When all of those things were shaken, it left me scrambling for solid ground. It makes perfect sense for us to want a healthy marriage, a cohesive family, and respect. Yet we don’t find our center of gravity in things that can be taken from us due to our actions or those of others. We find it in the unchanging love of God.
—Beth Taulman Miller, What Loss Can Teach Us: A Sacred Pathway to Growth and Healing (Upper Room Books, 2021)
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We have known and have believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and those who remain in love remain in God and God remains in them.
—1 John 4:16 (CEB)
Prayer for the Week
New every morning is your love, great God of light, and all day long you are working for good in the world. Stir up in us desire to serve you, to live peacefully with our neighbors and all your creation, and to devote each day to your Son, our Savior Jesus Christ. Amen.
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Turning to God, again, and a again, and again. Reaching for and standing in the everlasting arms that love unconditionally has kept me going since the beginning. It took me quite a few years to recognize this. As the challenges of life grew greater, beyond anything I could resolve on my own, my trust reached out to God and God has definitely helped me. Entering the army in 1969, not being sent to Vietnam, safety in Korea, glimpses of the woman who became my wife, grad school, return to Korea, marriage, birth of my daughter, return to the US, job searches, more grad school, the birth of my son, more job searches, home buying, the loss of my wife, comfort from God, deeper relationship with God, topsy-turvy fruitless searches for a new life partner, surviving a heart attack, and helping my son. Thank You, Lord.
Hopeful that snowshoeing happens today. While the snow wasn’t as helpful for skiing, it was wet and heavy on an icy base, it may work for snowshoeing. This is the the third year of La Niña weather so winters are wetter and warmer, not drier and colder.
Prayers that God’s wisdom guides CCUMC as it faces the future. Charge conference tomorrow.
It’s the year of the rabbit, Happy Lunar New Year! Very much looking forward to some kim bab for supper tonight. While not a usual Lunar New Year food, we haven’t had homemade kim bab in a very long time and hope we can be successful and thus enjoy this long time favorite. Thank You, Lord.
Also a thought to be pondered. Not a thought that is reflected in society. I know when I left my job, the loss of that identity shook me to my core.
Megan had a successful doctor’s appointment yesterday. This PCP does pap tests and so at 31 Megan will receive her first such test. I am so relieved as I have tried for years to get her to go to a gynecologist with no success.
H’s new habit is to sit at the kitchen table and just stare at me. I know he is bored. I have tried to peak his interest with various suggestions of hobbies and he shoots them all down. But this staring has to stop.
I don’t know that I give much thought to my identity. Yes, of course, I am a teacher. But – I know I am blessed by God to do what He has called me to do, and at this stage it is a blessing to teach students who want to learn. Maybe being single, I don’t think of this much. Other people have said when their parents died, it was a challenge, because they were no longer someone’s child. I don’t know if this will be the case when dad passes. I feel like I am getting more and more comfortable with the thought that I am just ‘a passing thru”…this place is not my home. My identity is as a child of God – and I am on my way to my future residence.
I went to my god son’s game last evening – and it was good to put eyes on my best friend. She is extremely weary.
Took the kittens to the vet this morning, for their first visit. They got a clean bill of health and some shots. Going back in a few weeks for boosters.
Participating in a “fun” tennis tournament tonight – a fund raiser in honor of a volunteer legend here in my corner of the state – who passed from colon cancer in August. She worked tirelessly in promoting tennis around these parts and was a fierce competitor on the court. There are 64 participants, 32 doubles teams in it this evening. Should be a fun evening of seeing familiar faces and competing in memory of this lady.