Voices of the Adult Child
WHEN IT COMES to my aging parent,
I find it difficult to straddle the line between her need for
independence and her need for assistance.
How can I be supportive of her desire to be on her own without
neglecting her safety and dignity?
There are times when she doesn’t notice spills and odors,
when I must protect her from herself,
when I overrule what she wants for her own best interest.
O Lord, I confess that I get frustrated and treat her like a child.
I feel the tension between preserving her self-esteem and
maintaining my sanity.
My heart breaks for the once independent woman who is losing
She cannot always see what I see or hear what I hear.
But in my efforts to help her, I am not always mindful of her
privacy and dignity.
Help me to be sensitive to her situation—to her fear, her
May I offer her dignity as best I can, knowing that growing older is
Voices of Aging: Adult Children and Aging Parents Talk with God
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Think of a few examples of how an older person’s dignity can be protected as he or she ages. How can fulfilling God’s commandment to love one another change the dynamics in your relationship with people of other generations? Share your thoughts.
I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.
—John 13:34-35, NRSV
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Dear Lord, Give me eyes to see beyond the stresses of my current situation.
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