Boundaries help us discern where we end and another person begins so that we do not become fused with others in unhealthy ways. As is often the case, spiritual maturity requires holding two truths at once: We can bear one another’s burdens and carry our own load. While we are an interdependent body of believers, we each hold an individual identity like an ear or an eye, a hand or a foot. We are responsible for what falls within our boundaries: thoughts, feelings, urges, desires, and preferences. It’s not in our best interest to expect others to take responsibility for those aspects of our experiences. Neither is it in our best interest to take responsibility for those areas of other adults’ lives.
—Angela D. Schaffner, Gather Us In: Leading Transformational Small Groups (Upper Room Books, 2020)
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Bear one another’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ… For all must carry their own loads.
—Galatians 6:2, 5 (NRSV)
Prayer for the Week
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(Courtesy of Vanderbilt Divinity Library)
- Genesis 24:34-38, 42-49, 58-67
- Psalm 45:10-17 or Song of Solomon 2:8-13
- Romans 7:15-25a
- Matthew 11:16-19, 25-30
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