Anniversary WaltzNew Every Morning | August 22, 2022
We won’t celebrate with dining and dancing this year. My anniversary waltz will take place in my heart as I admire the altar flowers when we go to church today. I ordered the flowers in celebration of my years with Bob but also in thanksgiving for a God who never quits on me. God’s love is everlasting regardless of debilitations of mind, body, or soul. Like a father, God stoops down, picks up his children, and holds them next to his cheek—so loving and intimate.
—Nell E. Noonan, Not Alone: Encouragement for Caregivers (Upper Room Books, 2009)
What adjustments have you had to make in celebrating special days?
Join the conversation.
I [God] led them with cords of human kindness, with bands of love.
I was to them like those who lift infants to their cheek.
—Hosea 11:4 (NRSV)
Prayer for the Week
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change those things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference. Amen.
—Prayer attributed to Reinhold Neibuhr
Submit your prayer to The Upper Room.
Stay connected with The Upper Room. Like us on Facebook and follow us on Instagram.
(Courtesy of Vanderbilt Divinity Library)
Looking for lectionary-based resources? Learn more about The Upper Room Disciplines.
Yes, changes in life ‘s events can change the way we remember events we celebrated in different ways. Arriving in Korea for a second time on the 14th, the day before Independence day, there are Korean flags. My parents are no longer here for us to celebrate their wedding anniversary on the 26th, so too my wife is not here for a birthday celebration on the 29th. The most impactful way for me is to REMEMBER. Thank the Lord that I still have that ability. Photographs, special foods, flowers, a dinner, a flag, and the Korean national anthem all can help. Knowing that one day I will see them again is a blessing. Thank You Lord.
Since the deaths of my grandparents the celebrations of all holidays including those in the summer have changed. Others in the family have stepped up but of course it is not the same. Now that I am h’s caregiver I cannot visit my mother and so I cannot celebrate her birthday or the holidays with her in person any longer. I also will not be seeing my extended family because of this and my aunt is 89.
I sspent the day yesterday away from the houuse and by myelf which is restorative in a manner that a day with Megan is not. I really need a day away from h once a week. Tomorrow we are attending a seminar for those with Parkinsons and their caregivers. I am hoping to meet some caregivers interested in getting together with our spouses about once a week to at least have coffee/tea and visit. I know it would do both h and I a lot of good so I suspect others will be interested.
Prayers for Ally’s shoulder to heal and for David’s continued recovery as well as their kitties health. Prayers for Lou’s health and for all the people she is praying for and their concerns. Prayers for Robert as he remembers loved ones on upcoming anniversaries, may all memories be happy and fill him with love.
We have made changes In how we celebrate holidays due to pandemic and changing extended family dynamics. That one saddens me, but can’t be helped. It is what it is. I miss my loved ones who have passed on and the joyous celebrations of the past. Sometimes I wish I could go back to those happy times for a few days. David and I have developed new traditions with my sister and BIL. I am thankful for this and for my memories.
Thanks to all my friends here for your prayers. You are in my prayers and in my heart as well.
Currently my thoughts around certain dates pertain to how to comfort dad through them. I am unable to imagine what those dates will be like once he is gone, and what my grief will look like.
I am walking closely beside my new friend – the captain of my new tennis team – as her mother is in her last days. My friend and I became very close during our two weekends of playoff tennis, as we traveled out of town together and got into very deep, intense conversations. It is scary how so many of her stories – her caregiving for her mom in her home – practically identically mirror what we experienced with mom. She visited her mom Sunday and the hospice nurse said it was time to stop trying to get her mom to take in food and water. This was incredibly sad for my friend. She wept on my shoulder at the restaurant. Even in it all, she was aware of triggering me. She has a very sweet, sincere soul. I am trying to remain available, close – but respecting her space. A delicate balance. I would appreciate your prayers for her and for me as I companion her.
The week away with dad, Becky and Don was very enjoyable. The weather was not ridiculously hot and we were able to enjoy days on the beach under umbrellas and eating outside for dinner.
Today was back to school. We have meetings all week – very dreadful. I wish the students would just come. I won’t see mine until next Tuesday. Trying to get things situated in my new room.