A Masculine PerspectiveNew Every Morning | September 11, 2021
Every man has within his life experience a hidden wholeness—as Thomas Merton named it, a metaphor of meaning, a healing hologram: this hidden seed, this secret leaven, this buried treasure, this mysterious pearl. But like the irritating grain of sand in the oyster, the place where it is buried is usually at the very point of anger, pain, and anguish.
As boys, we are taught that a wound is shameful, that to let a wound stop you from playing makes you a sissy. Yet Robert Bly’s insight in Iron John embodies the radical gospel: “Our story gives a teaching diametrically opposite. It says that where a man’s wound is, that is where his genius will likely be. . . . that is precisely the place for which we will give our major gift to the community.”
—Kent Ira Groff, in Anger: Minding Your Passion, compiled and introduced by Amy Lyles Wilson (Fresh Air Books, 2010)
Have you noticed the places where your anger is connected to a wound? Join the conversation.
He heals the brokenhearted,
and binds up their wounds.
—Psalm 147:3 (NRSV)
Prayer for the Week
Search me and know me. Shine a light on my innermost thoughts and feelings, even those I try to hide deep within. Give me courage to name the sources of my joy and my anger. Give me strength and wisdom to learn from them. Amen.
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Yes, emphatically Yes! Both anger and pain from past as well as present circumstances.
Tomorrow Megan and I will be together. We have many errands to run and other tings to do throughout the day. We always get an early start to our days together and they are full and hectic. But we make sure to have fun together as well.
Prayers for Ally’s hurting heart and her and David’s health and finances. Prayers for Jill and her students, for safety from harm both physical and psychological from all the unrest and violence during their school days. Prayers for Lou’s heartache over her empty nest, may she find an outlet for her compassion and caring and may her daughter find help with her new psychologist. Prayers for Robert as he continues to tend to his health and financial well being while also supporting Erich. Prayers for Marti and her staff and their hard work on our behalf. Thankyou for your prayers and may God bless all who visit here. May God bless all who lost loved ones on that fateful day twenty years ago today and may our nation heal the wounds that remain in our national fabric.
This is a hard question for me. I don’t feel as though I have anger. Frustration, concerns, yes, but no anger.
I most certainly add my prayers to those mentioned here by Julie. Thankful for nice weather, a good get together with friends, sound working on my computer, and ZOOM worship tomorrow. 52 years ago, tomorrow, I was in the army headed for basic training, despite light weapons infantry training focused on Vietnam, I was sent to Korea., Missed combat in the Persian Gulf War and later Afghanistan/Iraq. I’m enormously grateful for those who served. Was able to see a lot of 9-11 from both Newark and Hackensack NJ. My daughter missed her 10 am appointment in the World Trade Center on 9-11 as the building was already in turmoil. Thankful for that too. From long ago Pearl Harbor Day now has a companion on 9-11. Of course there are other tough days as well, some very personal and others very public. Lord, Your wisdom is very much needed in the struggle to overcome the pandemic. Help us be wisely united. Thank You, Lord.
I don’t think I have an apt response for the question. But the last line of the reading resonated immensely with me. My deepest wound began with mom’s suffering and continues now as I walk beside dad. This scar will always be with me and I am determined to use it to assist others and glorify God.
Looking so forward to finally returning to in person meeting of the cancer support group. It will be interesting to see how many show up tomorrow and how many try to zoom in, in whatever manner that is available.
Spent the afternoon with my friend and her dogs – all of us on her reclining couch, each of us at one end and the puppas in between. Lots of napping in the middle of college football and US Open tennis. She grilled out pork chops – my favorite. We walked the puppas after dinner – a lovely late afternoon.