Today’s Reflection
Authentic forgiveness—deep-hearted, full-spirited forgiveness—cannot be forced. Inauthentic forgiveness—words spoken out of obligation or coercion without the heart’s concurrence—is a lie. This lie may deceive both the forgiver and the forgiven, but it does not deceive God. Neither does it incarnate the divine intent of forgiveness: to remove the barriers to a holy and right relationship, where the Spirit can move freely, gladly, and creatively.
—Jean M. Blomquist, “The Journey,” in Forgiveness: Perspectives on Making Peace with Your Past, compiled by Amy Lyles Wilson (Fresh Air Books, 2008)
Today’s Question
Have you ever felt obligated or coerced to forgive? What does authentic forgiveness feel like for you? Join the conversation.
Today’s Scripture
When you are offering your gift at the altar, if you remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother or sister, and then come and offer your gift.
—Matthew 5:23-24 (NRSVUE)
Prayer for the Week
Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us today our daily bread.
And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from the evil one.
(This week’s prayer can be found in Matthew 6-9-13, NIV.)
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Lectionary Readings
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Obligated or coerced forgiveness – yes, many times growing up when parents try to end disputes with siblings. Authentic forgiveness – the relationship is fully restored or there is an amicable parting. Wonderful reflections on forgiveness this week, clearly expressed, and to the heart of the matter. Thank You, Lord for forgiveness.
I,too,have enjoyed this week’s reflections and found them to be clear and concise with easily actionable steps. I especially found valuable the one that said true forgiveness could not be achieved without the perpetrator accepting that they had harmed the one offering forgiveness. This was the stumbling block I encountered with h. He actually laughed at me when I told him had abused me.
Coercion was a theme with my mother and I for many years. I had to apologize, make it sound authentic, before there was any hope of the silence being broken. I see how flawed that process was and I think that is why I am incredibly uncomfortable when forgiveness is not offered or graciously accepted. I believe I am more careful with my words and the power they hold.
Not sure how the week got away from me – but it did. I woke up this morning, uncertain of what day it was initially. A nice problem to have in the summer.
Golfing in dad’s church’s golf outing today. He, Don, myself and my tennis friend. Should be quite enjoyable. Pretty warm, so will keep an eye on dad. Played tennis this morning and it was quite warm when we quit at 10:15.
In the last week of my training course. I have learned so much.
Robert – I hope you are home safe and are blessed by your time visiting with your daughter and grandchildren.
This week’s readings have give to me a lot to chew on. Good readings, good questions. Today’s hit home. My heart is rather hardened right now about several things. I have experienced feeling coerced into forgiveness. I’m bitter towards several persons. I pray for repentance of that bitterness and for unwise words spoken today. And for lack of empathy I have felt this evening. Love to all.
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